One of my close uncles visited my house and I offered to drop him at his place. On the way, he asked me to drive to a different place. And for what? 'To check the photoes of girls for a match!' For a match with a 20-day beard and clothes that would put a street vendor who sells used clothes to shame! I became speechless for a while but couldn't say no for reasons intrinsic and extrinsic! We reached the place and met a person who looked a typical 'poojari'.
He opened his yahoo mail and there comes a page full of young girls! I was moving impatiently for I never believed in this kind of stupidity! Choosing girl(s) on the 'face value'! Worse still rejecting girls on 'face value'! Long back I myself wrote - 'if you are incompetent - no pun intended - you may well become inhuman in due course!'. A serious quote if you think! Never did I think it comes back to me boomeranged! Now, I can neither run around trees ( read Coffee Shops, Lumbini Parks or I MAX halls) nor can I go against what I had been 'preaching' all along from my college days! I am sure there are atleast a few who are sharpening their swords for my head! Never mind.
A mind full of conflicting thoughts! Then came the wife of the person. 'It became a headache searching for girls! It's the time of the girls! They have so many conditions for and expectations of the boys!'. I then came to know that the photoes being shown to me are in fact came for their son! Either rejected or got rejected! Half-dead!! Felt like running away! Then the person clicked on the thumbnail to enlarge it. It was taking all the time in the world to download! Indifferent till that time, I became a little curious! 'Andee andani andame muddu!' Wait wasn't worth!
The person turned to me and asked, 'Do you have any chance of going abroad?'. 'I am not interested!' - said I. Because the next girl stays in US and wants a groom who's settled there! In fact there were two categories of girls - one who want a groom who has no plans of going abroad and the other who want one who intend to abroad! I belong to neither for I never 'wanted' to go abroad, nor do I resist the idea of going! An absolute non-believer in planning!
Some more photoes but the doors of the heart never really opened - even a wee bit! Then came a girl - who looked good even in a thumbnail. But the person wasn't interested! He said the girl is 'chamana chaya' (wheatish colour). 'Is it OK if the girl is chamana chaya?' Felt like hitting my head on to a wall! I said colour is not a problem. He still was not opening it giving some other reason! I looked firm and insistent! He was smart enough to read me! The girl looked fine to me. Details noted down. Then some more photoes browsed but to no effect.
Panchangam was taken out to check the 'compatibility'! A score of 27 on 36! 2 plus 7 is 9. And 9 is a lucky number! Then the person rang to the father of the girl zeroed-in! The girl works for a noted software firm. Was I a bit nervous? I don't know! I was almost evesdropping what the other person was speaking, though. Some details from my side been passed. They cited that that there's a 7 years of gap between us! Heartbreak! I know that was an anachronism for saying no to a person! Sounded familiar - a deja vu! And on top of it the person started saying - 'this boy looks hundred times better than your girl! That's why I am saying, don't mind we rejected your girl but I am compensating with this!' What to say of that exaspearatingly eccentric person! You read the above lines again! But the girl looked fine really! Then came the shock of the day! The girl belong to the same 'gothra'! All the doors opened yet crash-closed in a flash! Back to square one!
The search resumed! I regrouped from the 'setback'! That watermelon they served did help! He asked me again if I really had no chance of going abroad. I said, ' I said I am not interested'. Then he took my palm into his and looked at me as if I were a fool. I was surprised by his looks. He said, 'You will go abroad!'. I was bemused. Not because he said that I will go abroad! I was thinking if he now tries convincing people that I will some day land up in a foreign nation and sets up marriage on that 'post-dated' cheque! I didn't respond. Then stopped at a girl who looked really pretty! I asked what she does. ' Works for a --TV'. 'Then she must be from Andhra' - I said. Then my uncle said that I am an active participant in the Telangana movement and so may not prefer a girl from Andhra! I stopped him midway and corrected him. I said, 'as I take part in the movement that girl may not be interested!' It was the second time I had to say this. Because I have no problem with someone saying 'Jai Samaikyandhra', but I sure will ask for the justification. And I am sure I can convince them on my view! We have been trying to convince people and are open to get convinced! No one really put up a worthwhile argument yet!
It didn't go further! Then suddenly the person jumped out of his seat and asked if 'ashlesha - 4' girl is OK? I got perplexed! Now what was that? Right at the moment my father called me and I directed the question to my father. Then they talked for a while. You should see the ecstacy of the person! My uncle asked what does the girl do. I think he asked it for five times and the man 'on the cloud nine' refuses to heed! 'She is an advocate' - he replied. He for the first time cared to ask me if I were interested in an LLB? I whispered in my uncle's ears - advocate or journalist is in fact great for me, coz they can understand my 'language' better. He jumped out of the seat for a second time! Now he said - 'You stay here in our house today, we'll go to the girl's house tomorrow.' I said, 'my house is nearby, I can as well come tomorrow morning.' He said, 'I don't want to leave you.' Now what does that mean? This guy given slightest of room will even marry me to the girl if that girl expresses interest! Don's ask if he cares about how I feel? I scratched my uncle with my sight, he understood it rightaway! I almost ran out of the house lest the person would catch me again!
All along the 15 minutes drive from there to my house I was laughing all by myself, at times screaming! Went by the memory lane to recollect that gorgeous Soundarya in the movie 'Raja' who tickled manhood in me for the first time! Then Arti Agarwal stayed as a woman of my liking for a few years. And so on... There were some who liked me and some others whom I liked. But the problem has been, I didn't like those who liked me and they didn't like me whom I liked! Sort of a deadlock - for only the God to solve! Beware guys, particularly those who are in their early twenties! It is the time of the Girls. And so the moral of the story is: CATCH THEM YOUNG!!!
He opened his yahoo mail and there comes a page full of young girls! I was moving impatiently for I never believed in this kind of stupidity! Choosing girl(s) on the 'face value'! Worse still rejecting girls on 'face value'! Long back I myself wrote - 'if you are incompetent - no pun intended - you may well become inhuman in due course!'. A serious quote if you think! Never did I think it comes back to me boomeranged! Now, I can neither run around trees ( read Coffee Shops, Lumbini Parks or I MAX halls) nor can I go against what I had been 'preaching' all along from my college days! I am sure there are atleast a few who are sharpening their swords for my head! Never mind.
A mind full of conflicting thoughts! Then came the wife of the person. 'It became a headache searching for girls! It's the time of the girls! They have so many conditions for and expectations of the boys!'. I then came to know that the photoes being shown to me are in fact came for their son! Either rejected or got rejected! Half-dead!! Felt like running away! Then the person clicked on the thumbnail to enlarge it. It was taking all the time in the world to download! Indifferent till that time, I became a little curious! 'Andee andani andame muddu!' Wait wasn't worth!
The person turned to me and asked, 'Do you have any chance of going abroad?'. 'I am not interested!' - said I. Because the next girl stays in US and wants a groom who's settled there! In fact there were two categories of girls - one who want a groom who has no plans of going abroad and the other who want one who intend to abroad! I belong to neither for I never 'wanted' to go abroad, nor do I resist the idea of going! An absolute non-believer in planning!
Some more photoes but the doors of the heart never really opened - even a wee bit! Then came a girl - who looked good even in a thumbnail. But the person wasn't interested! He said the girl is 'chamana chaya' (wheatish colour). 'Is it OK if the girl is chamana chaya?' Felt like hitting my head on to a wall! I said colour is not a problem. He still was not opening it giving some other reason! I looked firm and insistent! He was smart enough to read me! The girl looked fine to me. Details noted down. Then some more photoes browsed but to no effect.
Panchangam was taken out to check the 'compatibility'! A score of 27 on 36! 2 plus 7 is 9. And 9 is a lucky number! Then the person rang to the father of the girl zeroed-in! The girl works for a noted software firm. Was I a bit nervous? I don't know! I was almost evesdropping what the other person was speaking, though. Some details from my side been passed. They cited that that there's a 7 years of gap between us! Heartbreak! I know that was an anachronism for saying no to a person! Sounded familiar - a deja vu! And on top of it the person started saying - 'this boy looks hundred times better than your girl! That's why I am saying, don't mind we rejected your girl but I am compensating with this!' What to say of that exaspearatingly eccentric person! You read the above lines again! But the girl looked fine really! Then came the shock of the day! The girl belong to the same 'gothra'! All the doors opened yet crash-closed in a flash! Back to square one!
The search resumed! I regrouped from the 'setback'! That watermelon they served did help! He asked me again if I really had no chance of going abroad. I said, ' I said I am not interested'. Then he took my palm into his and looked at me as if I were a fool. I was surprised by his looks. He said, 'You will go abroad!'. I was bemused. Not because he said that I will go abroad! I was thinking if he now tries convincing people that I will some day land up in a foreign nation and sets up marriage on that 'post-dated' cheque! I didn't respond. Then stopped at a girl who looked really pretty! I asked what she does. ' Works for a --TV'. 'Then she must be from Andhra' - I said. Then my uncle said that I am an active participant in the Telangana movement and so may not prefer a girl from Andhra! I stopped him midway and corrected him. I said, 'as I take part in the movement that girl may not be interested!' It was the second time I had to say this. Because I have no problem with someone saying 'Jai Samaikyandhra', but I sure will ask for the justification. And I am sure I can convince them on my view! We have been trying to convince people and are open to get convinced! No one really put up a worthwhile argument yet!
It didn't go further! Then suddenly the person jumped out of his seat and asked if 'ashlesha - 4' girl is OK? I got perplexed! Now what was that? Right at the moment my father called me and I directed the question to my father. Then they talked for a while. You should see the ecstacy of the person! My uncle asked what does the girl do. I think he asked it for five times and the man 'on the cloud nine' refuses to heed! 'She is an advocate' - he replied. He for the first time cared to ask me if I were interested in an LLB? I whispered in my uncle's ears - advocate or journalist is in fact great for me, coz they can understand my 'language' better. He jumped out of the seat for a second time! Now he said - 'You stay here in our house today, we'll go to the girl's house tomorrow.' I said, 'my house is nearby, I can as well come tomorrow morning.' He said, 'I don't want to leave you.' Now what does that mean? This guy given slightest of room will even marry me to the girl if that girl expresses interest! Don's ask if he cares about how I feel? I scratched my uncle with my sight, he understood it rightaway! I almost ran out of the house lest the person would catch me again!
All along the 15 minutes drive from there to my house I was laughing all by myself, at times screaming! Went by the memory lane to recollect that gorgeous Soundarya in the movie 'Raja' who tickled manhood in me for the first time! Then Arti Agarwal stayed as a woman of my liking for a few years. And so on... There were some who liked me and some others whom I liked. But the problem has been, I didn't like those who liked me and they didn't like me whom I liked! Sort of a deadlock - for only the God to solve! Beware guys, particularly those who are in their early twenties! It is the time of the Girls. And so the moral of the story is: CATCH THEM YOUNG!!!
2 comments:
Firstly, I appreciate the way u sketched ur feelings so intensly n thoughtfully, laced with impressive wit n humour, underlining the profoundity of ur utmost regard to the respect n dignity of Girls.
Secondly, I feel extremely sorry for taking everything for granted in arranging the ''Match fixing Sit-together'' with the girls without caring even a bit for ur idealistic feelings n perception about Marriage.
But, let me be frank n sincere that my overaction is purely out of madly affection and eagerness to see ur HALF CIRCLE as the FULL ONE with 360 degrees at the earliest....In my desperation to see you beautifully matched, I never bothered to think of how much embarrasment n uneasyness u would experience to sit as if a showcased doll.
Making option out of mere one time seeing, knowing nothing about the girl's wishes n dreams is really highly embarrassing. Yes, this is nothing but stupidity. But take note of one stark reality. Ours is middle-class set up craving for false prestage which is of " Ideal in thought n idle in action" type. As for me, I faced many situations that made me feel suffocated and sandwitched while trying in vain to fill the gulf between my ideals and actions. I cite one example. You know that to what extent I lost myself under the influence of Ramana murthy who is an agnost. But in utter contrast, I had to compromise in many aspects to make my living such as performing archaka duty etc., I know very well that whatever we do in the name of spirituality is trash, fake and false. I know that spiritualism in its true and purest form is totally different. Former churns 'paise' and the later gives peace. but knowingly I had to compromise. This doesn't mean that this compromising tendency is an universally applicable rule and everyone will have the same tendency.
What I mean to say is that the socalled middle class reality will not let us live our own life as we wish. Of course, those who defy this set up will definately create history. But it needs exemplary idealistic commitment, courage, adventurous streak and fighting spirit.
Started to stress something and Ended somewhere...!!
You may be little bit confused about what I really intend to say.
Nee manasulo gharshana jaruguthondani telusu. adi nee chuttu vunnavallaki artham kadu. Arthamaina nee meeda pressure pettaka tappani anivarya paristhiti... meerutunna vayasu, chuttala prasnarthakala fesulu, normal track edo tapputhondanna andolana, society chevulu korukkuntundanna bhayam, venakale kyoolo vunna thammullu...ilantivanni peddavalla karanalu......!!
This itself is the middle class reality. Elders can't dare to defy...can't think beyond....Can't leave you to yourself. This may insert severe pressure on you!
You r so matured n genius and know ABCD of everything...make ur sensible n ideal choice soon so that every face around u glitters in absolute happiness.
May God bless you with a Girl of SKILL n SKIN...!!
WOW! Madhav, that was quite an experience.
It was extremely interesting to read this story because people like me never had the chance to go match hunting.
By the way I chanced on your blog as I was searching for the song "ఆ చల్లని సముద్ర గర్భం" Song
Dileep
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